Be Willing to be Weird

By: Darryl Bellamy Jr. Over the years, I’ve begun to embrace being different and not being like the rest of the crowd. My closest friends will often call me weird, and my answer back is usually, “I know, we’ve been through this already, what are we going to do now?” I take so much pride in being me and want to encourage you to do the same, and it...

The Seven Deadly Sins of Greek Life

By: Dan Faill (Part One) For those that know me, know that I like to push buttons. One of my most requested keynotes for fraternity/sorority communities, When is Enough, Enough? discusses the ways in which we, as members of fraternal organizations, perceive ourselves versus how the general public perceive us. I joke that looking in the mirror is the hardest thing to do, but often the most revealing. Having...

Why I Didn’t Fight Back: A Survivor’s Perspective

By: Brittany Piper “Why can’t you remember? Your story doesn’t make sense. Why didn’t you fight back? Weren’t you drinking? What did you expect?” They’re words I never imagined hearing after being sexually assaulted. Police officers, family, and community members hinted the same: it was my fault. Perhaps you’ve asked others, maybe even yourself, these same questions. Sadly, it’s a familiar response for the 1-in-4 college students who experience...

Live your best college life with M.E.S.H.

By: Chris Butsch Have you ever felt like you were doing the right things to be happy, but still felt stressed out, even depressed? This could be because even though you’re chasing happiness, you’re not taking the time to take care of yourself. This is where MESH comes in. If your happiness is like a house, MESH is the foundation it stands upon. MESH creates a base layer of...

Three Non-Sexual Ways You Can Practice Communicating Consent

By: Dr. Lori Bednarchik Usually when I’m talking to students about consent, it is in the context of sexual activity. Over the past decade I’ve witnessed a lot of changes in the way that (and the frequency in which) sexual consent is discussed. The biggest and most influential being the shift from a “no means no” view of consent to a “yes means yes” or affirmative view of consent....

Overcoming Obstacles With Grit

By: Saul Flores As a first-generation college student, my parents experienced the difficulties that most migrant families endure after journeying to the United States. They juggled multiple jobs to ensure that bills were paid on time. They worked late nights to afford groceries at the end of the week, and even took long commutes to rougher parts of New York City. It wasn’t always an easy path. There were...

Discovering My Why

By: Chevara Orrin The most two important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why – Mark Twain I spent years contemplating my “why.” For many of us, understanding our life’s purpose is constant evolution. Our journeys are often complex and filled with both triumph and tragedy. In college, it’s difficult enough sometimes to coordinate a schedule and ensure that...

Hitting the Holiday Reset Button: A Season for Resilience

By: Kevin Smith The holidays are coming, and they couldn’t arrive sooner. You’re tired. I’m tired. It feels like it’s been a long, hot burn all semester. By this time, the tank is nearing empty and we are running on fumes. I don’t think people understand how hard it is to be in college; the pressure is intense. You can’t just get a degree anymore; you have to be...

Please, Friend, Don’t Waste Your Life Curating Your Life.

By: Talia Pollock I’d spent two weeks on my beach vacation in the throes of a silent battle with an inanimate object. Not with sand, though it did keep wedging itself into unwanted territories, nor with a beach chair that required you to be in Mensa to fold up. My battle was with my iPhone, specifically: with Instagram. Running a business for whom I am the product, or at...

Pulse Check: How Healthy is Your Organization?

By: Austin Arias On a daily basis, many of us check our heart rate to see how we are doing. We may have a smartwatch or step tracker or phone that does this for us and warns us when our numbers drop or get too high. We use this as our guide and when alerted, make the necessary steps to change. Sometimes, it is a small, immediate change. Other...

Three Ideas to Boost Organizational Engagement and Retention

By: Chris Butsch As a student leader, you want to run an awesome organization with happy, productive members. You want better attendance at meetings, with lots of volunteers. You want to attract and recruit the coolest people on campus, and get everyone involved in impactful events.  Problem is, not all of your members are as engaged and gung ho as you are.  Sure, you have a few regulars you...

Using Your Why to Retain Members

By: Austin Arias It is hard to believe but we are halfway into the fall semester. While we are enjoying the opportunity to take a breath and relax after jammed packed weeks filled with welcome week activities, involvement fairs, trainings and more, this is a crucial time for your student organization. You have just recruited some new members to join your group on campus and maybe held few interest...

Talking to yourself – The Art of Combatting Negative Self-Talk

By: Darryl Bellamy What people say about you can affect you, but what you say to yourself is even more critical. Listen here for a moment; you have to start (if you’re not already) becoming aware of the thoughts you have and the words you say to and about yourself. The jury is still out on this one, but some studies have noted we have almost 60,000 thoughts per...

Pay Yourself First – A Lesson in Sustaining Leaders

By: Kate Steiner I was listening to a radio show this week and they were talking about the concept in personal financial budgeting that first you pay yourself. In budgeting this means that from every paycheck you first put money away into savings. The savings is then your safety net, there when you need it, should an emergency arise. This practice of paying yourself first also relates to leadership,...

Gifts Grow In Dark Places

By: Nisan Trotter You’re a muddy miracle! Gifts grow in dark places. I think I surprised the students at Saginaw Valley State University with those comments. It’s okay though…. I’d rather it be that way than have them fall asleep. They were glued to every word. Your gift, talent, and even potential is like a seed that is planted in the ground. It is around worms, dirt, holes, and darkness. However, going further with this...

The Full Truth on Success

By: Alex Weber As you’re thinking about your goals this semester for yourself, your organization, and your community, it is so important to really get clear on what Success looks like to you. The more we hone in on what we want to achieve, the more we can progress towards making it a reality.   A great way to identify our goal of success is to begin picturing how you see...

From Where I Stand: A Reflection on Being a Sexual Assault & Alcohol Speaker

By: Dan Faill If you told me in college, I’d be a professional college speaker, I might have believed you. If you had told me one of my topics would be the intersection of alcohol, blackouts, consent and sexual assault, I would definitely not have believed you. But here I am, speaking to countless students across the country about the environments that are created when alcohol and people come...

Expectations of Being a Man

By: Dennis Campbell Not long ago I got a phone call from my father telling me that my grandfather was being transported to the hospital. I immediately began to tear up but immediately shut those feelings down because there was too much work to do and people were depending on me.  I needed to just power through and get the work done. A colleague came into my office and...

A Few Bad Apples

By: Tracy Maxwell We’ve heard it time and time again when a major hazing incident hits the news – the idea that a few bad apples are to blame for the latest tragic death, serious injury or embarrassing incident (usually with photos or video involved). The recent conviction of Matthew Naquin for negligent homicide in the death of Max Gruver in the fall of 2017, shows that courts are...

Get the Job AND the Date with This Skill

By: Rachel DeAlto As a relationship expert, I talk about sex and dating a LOT – on TV, in person, on Instagram, and pretty much anywhere people will listen. When I began speaking at corporations, many organizers were afraid to have me – they thought my programs on building relationships would be related to their employees finding a date! I have a confession though. The skills I teach singles...

If You’re Going Through Hell, Keep Going

By: Josh Rivedal When going through difficult times—changing majors, a breakup, a death, an ugly misunderstanding between friends, getting locked out of your IG account—it can be incredibly hard to push through. It’s much easier to give up, or bitch and moan for a month, or to blame the Universe. But none of that is going to change your circumstances and get you where you want to go in...

The Truths of Being a “Masculinity” Speaker

By: Tim Mousseau When I first found out that Men’s Health was featuring me in an article, I was thrilled. This was a global publication, one with reach and influence. As a speaker who viscerally believes in his platform, how could I not be excited? A chance to further my potential reach.   Not used to these types of media requests, the build-up was strange. The writer contacted me...

The Burnout

By: David Stollman Burnout isn’t caused by how much work you do, it’s caused by how much work you look around… and see others NOT doing!   There are lots of suggestions on how to recharge, and bounce back from burnout. But, maybe we should talk more about preventing it in the first place. The start of the semester is a great time for that conversation. Eyes are bright,...

Grant Yourself Permission to Bloom

By: Tara Fuller Have you ever wondered where and how you show up in other people’s memories? The thought can produce a long and never-ending rabbit hole of theories, but I find it fascinating to ponder. The many narratives out in the world about who we are can influence how we define ourselves. In a society full of systems and categories and labels, it is difficult at times to...

Quick Life Advice

By: Darryl Bellamy I was in the Sauna early one morning and received a text from a friend that asked: At this point in your life, what are the three most important pieces of advice you would give someone? I had no idea why she was asking and thought quickly as not to overthink my answers. Without thinking, hot and sweaty, here’s what I typed back in bold. Anything...

How to Enjoy the Journey of a College Student

By: Hailey Yatros When I was 17 years old, I remember parking my car in the biggest parking lot I’d ever seen. I walked up to a building that looked to be the size of my local shopping mall and I felt a rush of adrenaline sweep over me. It was so big, and I felt so small. With my backpack hanging on my shoulders, I gripped both hands...

Coffins and Cages

By: Samantha Ramirez- Herrera My heart feels heavy, it feels dense like osmium. My mind is foggy. It is yearning for sunshine, more like begging. My spirit is lightly humming, “Blackbird singing in the dead of night, take these broken wings and learn to fly.” But this flame, this fire deep inside of me, yes, it is still alive. I refuse to let it die. The pride I carry...

SELF-NAVIGATION: From Failing to Thriving

By: Alex Weber You will Fail. Worst inspirational book ever! I know, I know but that’s the honest truth, and I owe it to you to say it. Failures aren’t going anywhere, and they are often what stand in the way of creating the most for our lives. Trust me, I’ve made a career from failing. More so, I’ve made a life out of failing. I’ve failed over and...

Education. The Journey Vs. The Destination

By: Kinja Dixon Every single moment of our lives should be filled with different forms of education. Do you agree? Before you answer, here are the definitions of education: The process of receiving or giving systematic instruction, especially at a school or university An enlightening experience Do you believe that most people spend each of their days with that intent? Where you are at this exact moment, look around....

10 Things You Should Know to Support your Latinx Students

By: Saul Flores Whether it’s family, safety, health, or financial security, migrants have unique reasons for making the journey from Latin America to the United States. When they arrive, they face a multitude of challenges, from language barriers to understanding and adapting to a new culture. These obstacles are particularly magnified for young people who arrive in the U.S. and immediately enter the American school system. As the start...

More Life. More Everything.

By: Kaylon Bradford “More Life. More Everything.” – Drake As an avid social media enthusiast and higher education professional, I follow several fraternity and sorority life pages. When I scroll, I’m always impressed by the tireless efforts that ensure the legacy of each Greek letter organization shines bright. Innovation and creativity instantly come to mind when I see recruitment practices, promotional videos, photoshoots, new member presentations and accomplishments. With each generation,...

First Year Failure: How to Manage Your First Failures in College

By: Dan Faill I remember the feeling when I waved goodbye to my parents as they left me at college. The opportunities. The possibilities. The freedom. And then came the mistakes. Sleeping in and missing a class (or two). Having too much to drink at a party and totally throwing up on a cop’s shoes. Getting a D on a test. Pledging a fraternity and within three weeks dropping...

Loneliness – The Epidemic That Can Be Cured

By: Rachel DeAlto A 2014 study on friendship found that one in four people have zero friends. Not a single person they can call, text or hang out with when they are sad, happy, angry, or afraid. It was one in ten just 20 years ago. Let’s talk about college specifically – a survey of almost 50,000 college students found that 64% felt “very lonely”. It’s truly an epidemic...

The Traits of the Ethical Leader

By: Joe Richardson, Esq To many, the ideas surrounding the definition of a “leader” are often connected to a position (for instance, a President), as opposed to the traits of a person. Sometimes, selfish people with obvious conflicts that bear on their prospects for productive leadership are nonetheless heralded as great “leaders.” There needs to be a shift to the “straight line” of automatically connecting leadership with morals and...

Beyond PNM Orientation: A look at Effective Education

By: Dr. Christina Witkowicki, Coach & Consultant, CAMPUSPEAK Dan Faill, Speaker, Coach & Consultant, CAMPUSPEAK Think about when you stepped foot on campus for the first time. Do you remember the feeling? Were you excited? Nervous? Maybe a little of both? You had your entire future ahead of you and a desire to create your own path – so you decided to check out the involvement fair. Wow, talk...

After the Assault: The #MeFIRST Approach

By: Brittany Piper In 2009, at the age of 20, I was raped and beaten—nearly left for dead, by a stranger who helped me change my flat tire. Thanks to: an amazing roommate who (despite my hesitation) put me in her car and took me to the hospital, a sex crimes detective and attorney who were determined to put this man behind bars, and a supportive circle of friends...

WINNER of AFLV PITCH 2019 by CAMPUSPEAK

CAMPUSPEAK Announces the Winners of PITCH by CAMPUSPEAK May 19, 2019, Coral Springs, FL –  We are excited to announce the winner of the first CAMPUSPEAK PITCH competition for students. PITCH is a “Shark Tank” style competition for students to win up to $15,000 of CAMPUSPEAK educational resources in the form of speakers, interactive workshops, customized programs, consulting services, assessment support and educational promotion campaign to address a specific issue in their campus community. CAMPUSPEAK...

Time to Recharge: Getting YOU Back on Track

By: Austin Arias SUMMER IS HERE! I am sure you are just as excited as I am. But right about now you are probably thinking, “ How did my finals go?” “Did I forget anything in my residence hall when I moved out?” But, you are also probably thinking, “What am I am going to do this summer?” The summer presents us with so many opportunities to recharge and...

Managing the Chaos of Life

By: Curtis Hill As a leader many times you are pulled in multiple directions at the same time. If you are not careful it will stretch you so thin, that you won’t even recognize who you are. There are three kinds of leaders. Those who are fired up, those whose fire is not burning as bright as it used to and those whose fire has burned out. I will...

Hazing Can be “Phased Out” Over Time. LIE

By: David Stollman A congressional hearing investigated the hazing related death of a promising young man from Eastern Pennsylvania. He was beaten. Hot sauce was forced down his throat. Hot wax was poured on him while he slept. He told his brother back home about the abuse. He would never violate the unwritten code and reveal names of his abusers, but he did say why. They picked on him...