Sara Lowery


“Love is patient, and love is kind…” or so the story is told.

There is a moment when you think about your personal love, and sometimes it leads to warm fuzzy moments or cold realities of the bad decisions you have made in your lifetime.

We often find ourselves waiting for someone to say how much they like us, or even how much they love us. But sometimes the voice that we need to hear to say those things belongs to us. Why do we find ourselves waiting on others to acknowledge our existence when we may have walked by five mirrors and didn’t acknowledge ourselves?

I know this may be too deep, especially if you just stumbled across this article while eating your morning Cheerios. However, I have a responsibility to share with some and remind others. Does the love affair that you seek, start with yourself first? Loving yourself first is what I call the PERFECT LOVE AFFAIR! No one is going to love you better than you. No one is going to encourage, motivate and inspire you to stay strong more than you can.

I know that this may cause you to be a bit vulnerable. However, this is what creates inner strength. Brené Brown says it best:

“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.”

You’ve heard this before, but allow me to reintroduce you to this phrase – You can’t worry about the haters. You have to be prepared to lead your haters. Hence the reason that self-love is so important. When you can be vulnerable and love yourself, you can become vulnerable, with others, and when others see that vulnerability, their trust in you will be established. Then, friends, we have the making of a great leader! Trust me. I prescribe to this medicine of vulnerability – I take it at least three times daily, and I know I am getting stronger.

Want to start your regiment? Here are the directions for this medication. Each morning you should be able to look in the mirror (preferably before you wash your face and get dressed for the day), say and do the following:

  1. “Oh, how I love me some me.” Then, give yourself a huge smile.
  2. “I am valuable.” As you get stronger, list ways in which you are valuable.
  3. “I woke up this morning because I have a purpose.”
  4. “Someone needs me today, and it may only be my smile, but even this gorgeous smile can turn a frown upside-down.”

At first, this may seem silly, and you might feel silly doing it. Some of you may not get past just staring at yourself. And for those that can’t face the mirror right now, I understand. It was a process for me before I could look in the mirror and say that I love me some me. Write your thoughts, feelings, and experiences in a journal, then move to a Post-it®, then graduate to sticking Post-its® to a mirror. Before you know it, you will be saying them out loud to yourself each day.

Sometimes life situations have a way of beating us down. Trust me; I have been there! But we have to fight back and take control in our internal so that our external can be accurate and authentic, kind and compassionate. We want our external, the person that others see – to be inspirational, to portray us as a motivated leader that helps others, and show that we are supportive and encouraging. The only way that can happen is if we start that PERFECT LOVE AFFAIR with ourselves.

Check me out on Instagram and Twitter and inspire others and share with me your PERFECT LOVE AFFAIR, #PLA @saraempowers_u.


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