As someone who tried to avoid confrontation at ALL costs in the past, this was me. I’m still working through it, but I’ve improved a lot over the past few years because I’ve actively worked on it, making it more comfortable. Also, as leaders, if we don’t speak up and challenge others, who will? People are counting on us, and too often we can remain silent when we need to use our voice. I touch my fearless band often and have tough conversations and say what needs to be said, even though it’s hard.
Here’s a message I received from a student who pushed through the fear and challenged those around them:
“This weekend was pretty rough for me. I’m really shy like I said before. But my roommates were just interested in drinking and smoking and doing drugs in the room. They weren’t supposed to, and I wasn’t comfortable with it. I was struggling to come up with the courage to say something to them. But then I remembered what you told me during our last conversation. And I said something. They ended up getting defensive and started threatening me. So, security moved me to another room. But I was proud of myself because I normally wouldn’t have said anything.”
We all find ourselves in situations where we should speak up, but shy away for whatever reason it may be. For you, it could be in your life, your fraternity or sorority, organization, or even in your family. This fearless message is a reminder for all of us to push past that discomfort and always choose our values and what we know is right. This story inspires us because this student pushed past comfort to stand for what they believed was the RIGHT thing to do, even though it was hard; their decision was made off their values and NOT fear.
Who’s counting on your fearless/courageous voice, what happens if you never speak up?
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