By: Dan Faill

(Part Two)

Welcome back sinners! Or I guess if this is your first foray into my Seven Deadly Sins of Greek Life you should check out Part One. In the last article I covered Pride, Gluttony, and Lust, so now turn our attention to the last four:

Greed is the desire for material wealth or gains, sometimes at the expense of others’ well-being.

In our fraternal communities, we need to acknowledge the “haves” and “have nots.” There’s a greed that exists during formal IFC/Panhellenic recruitment: who can get the “most” members, or who can convince more PNMs to rank them higher (usually through nuanced and leading language that sets PNMs up for disappointment). We’re so concerned with getting more numbers that we’ve forgotten about recruiting a higher caliber person to begin with. After all, people join people. And hopefully, we want great people joining our organizations. There’s also a social capital and “tier” that we refuse to actually acknowledge. There’s an inconvenient truth when it comes to which councils get the most attention (spoiler alert, it tends to be the IFC and Panhellenic chapters that get more attention than our NPHC, MGC or culturally-based chapters/councils). We need to fix that disparity.

Anger (or Wrath) is manifested in the individual who spurns love and opts instead for fury.

However, I’ve seen this play out through chapters or communities when certain rules or policies are being discussed. Anger that “it’s not fair” or is impossible to actually implement. Here’s the thing, most risk management rules that are being “rolled out” were actually created before most (all) college students were even born. FIPG policies were created in the mid-1980’s and became the blueprint for many of our inter/national and regional organizations. I joke during some keynotes that Greeks spend more time trying to get around the rules than actually understanding why the rules exist in the first place and just working within the parameters of being safe organizations. I’ve had chapters I’ve worked with get completely pissed at me because of rules that I had no part in writing, but I was expected to implement and enforce. Remember, your fraternity/sorority advisor is there as your advocate. They’re not there to get you in trouble. In fact, they don’t get you in trouble at all; you get you in trouble; they just get to have the accountability conversation with you. Remember, you are responsible for your own actions, which includes their consequences.

Sloth (or Apathy) is the avoidance of physical work.

I have no clue how many times over the years I’ve heard chapter leaders complain about member apathy. But here’s the thing – apathy is just a byproduct of poor leadership and member engagement. Why do we waste time every week with a meeting that is basically just announcements that could’ve been an email? What if we respected our member’s time and personal life and didn’t expect them to live and breathe all Greek all the time.? If we could have more productive meetings and events that weren’t mandatory, member apathy would be nothing more than a myth. I’ve also seen brand new chapters get installed and closed within ten years (my own chapter included). Why does this happen? Because we’ve got all these checklists for members and events with the light at the end of the tunnel being chartering (or initiation). However once that deadline passes we become complacent, unsure of how to move forward. Or our chapters become just like every other chapter that we swore we wanted to be different than. We become okay with just being okay.

Envy is the desire for others’ traits, status, abilities or situation.

Theodore Roosevelt once said, “comparison is the thief of joy.” How often do we compare ourselves and our chapter events or accomplishments to others? It’s exhausting. And I see this all the time during the recruitment season. What centerpiece do the other groups have? What songs are they using? What outfits are they wearing and asking (requiring) their members buy? If you’re comparing yourself to others, how will you ever know who you are? Think of it another way: if I asked you to list all of the things in your life that you love, how long would it take until you list yourself? We get too caught up in everyone else’s highlight reels of life and social media that we’re neglecting the part that connects us to each other – the relationship we have with each other and ourselves.

Final Thoughts

As chapters and communities, we need to be willing to fail more. We need to get out of our own way when it comes to things that we’ve always done. Just because it was always done that way doesn’t mean it’s the right way. What if Greek Week didn’t put chapters against each other but everyone worked for a common cause that benefitted the local community through service? What if there were no Greek awards for a campus, but in order to “prove” yourself as an organization you had to apply for the all-campus student organization awards? What if recruitment was about creating relationships with people and there was no more formal recruitment to spend countless hours and money? Or maybe, if we’re going to do an event that’s “open to all of campus”, maybe we should actually invite all of campus, and not just the other Greeks. Or heaven forbid we do an event that’s not based around sports that requires teams of 10 or more (when some chapters don’t even have 10 members – refer to Greed above).

There are so many things we could change or shift in order to be better chapters and communities. There are so many things we could try. After all, I would rather fail with integrity than succeed with mediocrity. We need to stop being ok with the status quo and be the chapters and members we say we are. I’d love to help us make the changes to be brave enough to have the conversations that matter. Let’s connect and talk about ways we can make badass things happen in your communities.

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