College is the place where we’re educating ourselves so that we can be happy and successful “Grown Ups” right?
But just what is it that we’re preparing for? The world is changing fast and what many people understand as being a Grown Up is not actually working in the real world. Here are three myths of what it means to be a Grown Up:
1. Being a Grown Up Means You Can Do It All Yourself.
In our grown up world there is a lot of pressure to be totally self-sufficient. Individual success and prosperity seems to be the goal for many people. Moreover, our society’s current relationship with technology allows us to be fully functional in the world without ever having to leave our own homes. Yet, it has been reported that 1 out of every 3 adults feels lonely. Also, leading experts in innovation all point to collaboration as a crucial element in innovative thought. Whatever happened to “two heads are better than one?”
2. Being a Grown Up Means You Have To Be the Best
Get good grades, to get into a good school, to get a good job, to get a promotion, etc… We’re always striving to get to the next step, and always competing with others to do it! As a “Grown Up” many really take that to heart and because of it expect themselves to be the best at everything they try. There is very little room for mistakes, if any, nor is there room for asking questions and revealing that you don’t know something.
But is it a realistic expectation to know everything? If we allow ourselves to admit that we don’t know everything, isn’t the only way to learn, to ask? Mistakes are often how we grow the most. Many of our best qualities come from mistakes we’ve made. This is truly the same for almost all science and progress in our world. Many inventions that changed the world (penicillin, microwave, x-rays, etc.) came from mistakes. It seems that when we give ourselves a break, we actually make room to grow.
3. Being a Grown Up Means You Should Work All The Time
American’s work more hours and take less vacation than any other industrialized country. Work has become the center of our Grown Up day and even dominates most conversations outside of work. Very few Grown Ups set aside time to play, but this also seems to be contrary to the goals of leading a happy and successful life. It has been proven that play reduces stress, increases learning and brain development, and even supports better creative problem solving. Play can take many different forms from a heated game of soccer to reading or writing stories. Whether your play is a game of tag or a game of Pokemon-Go, keeping a playful lifestyle is good for your health and will actually help you succeed.
So what do we do? Remember that you can grow up without being a “Grown Up.” By maintaining a PLAYFUL lifestyle, you can avoid the pitfalls that many grown ups are facing today. When in doubt think, “WWKTD?” (What Would a Kindergarten Teacher Do?). They’d probably encourage you to share and work together, always ask questions, love learning and above all . . . PLAY!
Credit // Author: Brady Gill
Brady Gill reawakens love for play and shows people how investing a little regular play into their lives can have huge pay offs both professionally and personally.
Learn more about Brady and his playful approach to adulthood at campuspeak.com/gill.