Cheyenne Tyler Jacobs

Twice as Hard: The Conversation We Need to be Having

When Cheyenne Tyler Jacobs was growing up, she was warned about the system of added obstacles that would stand in her way just because of her appearance. As she got older, she learned the stereotypes imposed on her as a Black neurodiverse woman, created a harsh reality preventing access to the resources necessary to address her sexual assault. Cheyenne now exposes the social structures that told her that she “was not a real victim.”

In this keynote address, Cheyenne authentically combines global and national statistics about the abuses of Black bodies, woven through her own story, shared with original spoken word poetry.

She powerfully exposes the unique realities and experiences as a woman of color who is a survivor of sexual violence. Cheyenne unpacks uncomfortable realities of the internal dialogues about marginalized communities that fuel the underlying systemic conditions of sexual assault and abuse. This program helps students to explore their everyday narratives and personal choices so that they can find tangible strategies for positive change.

Learning Outcomes

As a result of attending the program, students will learn:

• Learn how the intersections of systematic oppression and racism impact who is seen as “deserving” of resources in sexual violence prevention,
• Unpack individual biases within a framework for self-reflection in our day-to-day lives
• Learn how to advocate for increased access to resources for survivors of marginalized communities, and
• Understand the need for a transgenerational trauma-informed approach to sexual violence prevention

It’s Giving Red Flags

In pop culture, a red flag is a sign or behavior that indicates a relationship might be toxic or unhealthy. Oftentimes, red flags can be deal breakers in dating or a relationship, yet we all know someone who has been or is currently in a relationship littered with red flags. That someone could even be yourself.

While we set boundaries and standards we create for ourselves, some just seem not to hold! What we do not realize is the lack of boundaries in our lives leads to burnout, resentment, and harm. The lack of boundaries isn’t limited to intimate partnerships but can also impact all relationships from employment, to family, and even friendships.  All the connections and relationships we build over our lives need trust and respect.

In this keynote, Cheyenne Tyler Jacobs provides the framework to create boundaries that allow attendees to strengthen their relationships.

Participants gain insight on what is needed to feel good within their relationships and how to have difficult conversations when boundaries are broken. This keynote helps individuals recognize the need to prioritize themselves and to learn what they need in their “spaces”.

Learning Outcomes

As a result of attending this program, students will learn:

• To look at the “power and control wheel” to bridge together its connection to the red flags we have seen across all relationships,
• The six forms of power and seven types of boundaries,
• To empower participants to hold others accountable when they do not feel respected, and
• To encourage participants to set the standards for their joy and how to find it during the chaos.

The Internal Protagonist: A Journey to Confident Leadership

Cheyenne Tyler Jacobs understands the pervasive issue impacting leaders is the feeling of inadequacy or imposter syndrome. When she learned how to empower her “Internal Protagonist” she reframed this narrative of self-doubt and inspired leaders to become the authors of their leadership journeys, building the confidence needed for success.

In this dynamic program, Cheyenne Tyler Jacobs intertwines her poems, holistic perspective, and real-world stories, offering a reflective and emotional journey that complements practical leadership strategies. Students will gain a profound understanding of the internal struggles leaders face and learn that by releasing the grief of past failures, they can lead with empathy, grace, and resilience.

Cheyenne believes that by embracing the good, the bad, and maybe a little bit of the wild, we can gain a clearer understanding of who we are. This self-awareness allows us to define our own success and unlock the power needed to achieve it. By overcoming imposter syndrome, leaders can move forward with a renewed sense of purpose and confidence.

Learning Outcomes

As a result of attending the program, students will:

• Gain the tools to process and release the emotional weight of the grief of past failures
• Discover the impact of true confidence and learn strategies to cultivate and sustain it
• Create a roadmap to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be
• Master the art of communicating your goals and ambitions to others.

Decoding the phrase “Just Be Nice”

“Just be nice. They didn’t mean anything by mispronouncing your name that way.” “Just be nice. That joke wasn’t really offensive.” “Just be nice. You don’t need to report it this time.” How can you speak up as a leader when you’re told to bite your tongue? You know in your gut it isn’t right and needs to be called out but are told to “Just be nice.”

In this keynote, Cheyenne Tyler Jacobs will take us through the journey of understanding how “niceness” is utilized as a form of silencing. Participants will leave this keynote understanding how privilege, gaslighting, and tone policing impact us all. She shares accessible actions to take in a workplace, classroom, even friend group to redirect conversations. Cheyenne teaches how speaking up as a better ally is really “Being nice.”

Learning Outcomes

As a result of attending the program, students will learn:

• To adopt “inclusion” instead of “competence”,
• To identify your own privilege, power, and authority,
• To understand how niceness, gaslighting, and tone policing are part of the system of oppression, and
• To create action items to be an ally to someone holding their ground.