Cheyenne Tyler Jacobs

POV: You thought it was gonna be a stale presentation for SA awareness month. But here comes this 6’2” Black girlie with style and an engaged presentation.

But seriously one thing I keep in mind throughout my programs is to be engaged and current. I remember sitting through programming for Sexual Assault awareness month and feeling like I was being talked at not talked with.

Happy that throughout this month I have been able to talk with so many! Longer post coming at the end of the month. 👏🏽

Consent at gun point isn’t Consent it is Coercion. If you had to force a “yes” you didn’t get consent.

👉🏽 “but you did it last time”
👉🏽 “come on if you like me you’d do it”
👉🏽 (withholding communicating)
👉🏽 (questioning sexual orientation)
👉🏽 (showing anger)
👉🏽 “you just need to loosen up, here drink this”

Tweet [Coerced Consent is not Consent!

The foundation ideology that you had to manipulate, lie, pressure, and or threaten to get a ‘yes’ was and will forever be a NO.

Consent is given freely and openly and can always be taken back. Anyone who says does otherwise isn’t looking for your consent. They just want to hear the ‘yes’ so the can’t be penalized for assault.]

I feel sometimes when we meet people in their winning seasons, we take it as a sign that we are not doing enough.

When in fact, I think we are so used to a culture that only uphold people and celebrate people when they get it.

That it can be the job, the relationship, the house, etc but what if we also remembered that for every win or every goal that you see someone obtain there were so many hours of doubt, pain, confusion, and the growing pains of life.

As I sit in joy on my personal circle of friends, and their wins, I am excited because I know the story that they might not share on how they got there. it made me reflect even on myself how a lot of people are so amazed by my accomplishments, but they don’t know the years of pain, confusion, growth, and just life.

Winning seasons are a blessing, and I am happy to see so many people obtaining what they have worked for. I hope that for those who are still in a different season I hope you remember at any point we can flip the script. But the journey that you’re on will only make that win that much better. I know it’s so cliché, but when you, sit with yourself when you reach that point you will be like wow no one can say I did not deserve this.

So again, so much love for everyone out here and every season of their life. Because every season teaches you something that you might not know you needed.

And specifically to my people I’m just so proud of you all.

[Thing about “winning season” is it usually comes after “struggle seasons”, “confused seasons”, “working around the clock seasons” and a “season of grief.”

It also always aligns with “change” and “realignment seasons.”

Remember that when you meet someone thriving in their win!]

Don’t judge but I mainly wrote this for myself. 🥹💕

[I hope your 2024 intentions are made out of a space of alignment and growth and not a place of comparison and frustration.

It’s not a race.
It’s not a competition.
Your timing is your timing.

Don’t miss your blessings looking at what’s being handed out to others.]

*clears throat*

I’m really tired of talking to women who’ve had their lives threaten, child support unpaid, and have had to call the cops feel they have to protect the very men hurting them.

Want to know why folks can’t take accountability in the world? We don’t let them face the consequences of their actions. When we talk about abuse and sexual assault the numbers show Black and Non-Black POCs have a tendency to want to protect our community. I mean I get it! But protecting the very people who are hurting our women, children, men?

Let’s unpack (especially as Black women) why we feel our safety has to be put on the back burner.

Because just know if you come to me (as some have experienced) we taking it to court, filing orders, and getting every legal entity involved! I’ve lost people due to the violence of someone they felt they had to protect and I refuse to lose anyone else.

Now i understand for safety why this could be an issue but for those who just feel they need to be loyal to their race? No.

So idk who needs to hear this…your safety is a priority. Let them face their consequences.

[Dear Black Community (BW specifically)

The unjust criminalization of Black men is REAL. However, the ones that have been abusing, beating, assaulting, threatening your life?

Please let them go to jail. Let’s stop convincing folks to protect abusers by weaponizing race loyalty.]